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Are you currently in a situation where your spouse or long term significant other has possibly been involved in an affair beyond the acceptable limitations of your current relationship and you are now pondering what your course of action in reaction to their promiscuous liaison is going to be? First and foremost you will absolutely need to certainly and completely confirm the truth of your situation to verify that any such situation is actually the case and if you should be responding to anything at all. Only after verifying this promiscuous activity, without any shadow of a doubt, can you actually even be beginning to formulate any kind of appropriate response to such a situation. If you do finally confirm that some form of infidelity is indeed the case then you will likely feel it necessary to respond accordingly. The question is just what is an appropriate response?

There are many possible actions that involve many considerations and you will obviously have to honestly and thoroughly review your actual scenario and circumstances to truly respond in a way that is actually appropriate rather than in a way that is irrational and reactionary. Responding and reacting are very different and one is rational while the other can possibly be rather foolish. If there are other parties involved, such as children, then you should certainly be considerate and respond in a beneficial manner that is in best interest of the children rather than possibly foolishly reacting in a manner that simply aims to retaliate on the person that you potentially feel hurt by.

Here are some possible responses that may be more rational that what you are considering. Remember that if you have children, only do what best serves their happiness. This does not, however, mean you must stay married to a spouse you do not wish to stay married to.

Move on.
Obviously just moving on to a new relationship is often the best option. You should make sure you have already had a reasonable heart to heart with your spouse or partner to attempt to understand and possibly resolve the matter if you feel the circumstances of their actions and the sincerity of apology truly warrant your forgiveness.

Forgiveness.
If you feel the circumstances of your spouse or partner’s activities and also the true sincerity of their apology to be truly of the utmost sincerity, then perhaps consider forgiveness as a viable option to show your love and understanding. Do make it very clear what your expectations and future consequences for any such actions will be.

Turn the tables.　
One final primary option is simply to sleep with someone else in order to even the score. This is not the most recommended of options, but if it helps you to stay in a relationship that you still want to stay in and do so without feeling as slighted by your partner, then you may want to consider this option to resolve the situation.

These are all common responses and it is really up to you to do what you feel is most appropriate for the situation.

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