Marriage, as romantic as the Hollywood movies put it or as sentimental as novelist tries to put it, a marriage is still nothing but a witness to the love between two individuals. The misconception sometimes people have is that, marriage will stop us from being unfaithful and marriage will help ease the urge to cheat on your partner. This is actually a wrong conception as sometimes, people tend to argue that marriage is the cause of some problems as people tend to loose interest between each other and a more “exciting” extramarital affair would be more interesting.

If couples truly loves one another and committed themselves to marriage, the chances of cheating would be much less as compared to a less serious relationship provided if after marriage, the couple remain as they used to and communicate with each other on an intimate level. However, thing still happens at times and if one happen to spot these early signs of marriage infidelity, there is more chance to save the marriage.

First off, the most common infidelity sign in marriage is when your partner starts to feel “bored” with everything at home. The bored here more or less refers to the lack of attention to things happening within the house and a decreasing amount of intimate communication between both of you. If this happen once in a while, there is a chance an external factor such as work or a football game would be the cause of the problem. However if this symptom prolongs, there is a good chance your partner would feel “bored” and start looking for thrills and excitements elsewhere (yes, elsewhere could be an extramarital affair). Spotting this early sign and communicating thoroughly with your partner could solve an infidelity problem at an early stage.

Secondly, the lack of attention to your partner could be a cause for infidelity as well. Although it is believed infidelity starts on one side, actually both party have to be responsible as we all know full well that it takes two hands to clap. We are all just human beings and even after marriage, psychologically, we as human beings still crave for attention from our loved ones. In psychology terms, this is similar to transactional analysis where for the amount of attention we shower to someone else, we would be expecting (consciously or subconsciously) the same level of attention back from the person we care about. Therefore, just ask yourself this question, have you been neglecting your partner’s emotional need lately?

Commonly on marriage, most of the time it is the lack of emotional needs that lead to the tendency of having an extramarital affairs, be it the husband or the wife. The lack of communication between partners is a sign of a build up for emotional needs and affairs happen when these build up of emotional needs aren’t met. Therefore as discussed in the start of this article, communication although it may seem fundamental, it is the essence and the core to a healthy relationship. Without proper intimate communication between married couples, regardless of how wonderful and deeply both of them love each other, the love would eventually fade away. Therefore, remember to communicate as often as possible with your partner and things such as going on holiday with your partner or tidying up the garden together would definitely help.

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