http://www.survivinginfidelity911.com My Words and Rants on Surviving Infidelity & Detecting Signs of Infidelity Mon, 15 Jun 2009 21:06:54 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en Confession is good for the soul, and the truth will set you free; but will your lover set you free if you confess that you cheated on them? If they have any self respect they will tell you and your soul where to go. Guilt is one of ... http://www.survivinginfidelity911.com/you-cheated-you-lied-and-now-you-want-to-confess/ The internet can find you almost anything you are looking for, if you know where to look. This makes it one of the best inventions ever. But like all of the great inventions before it, people misuse it and that misuse causes lives to be ruined. 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